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Frequently Asked Questions


These are the answers to the most common questions I am asked about spanking and discipline sessions. Please read this page before contacting me with an enquiry. If you have a question which isn't answered here, you can email me on hello (at) or fill out the enquiry form.

Frequently Asked Questions

Do you switch?

I am a natural switch, and I enjoy being spanked by people I am intimate with. However, submission is a very personal thing for me, and requires a genuine emotional connection: it's not something I can turn on like a tap. If we get to know each other over a number of sessions, there is the potential for a switch dynamic to evolve between us if the chemistry is right. Please note that this is purely at my  discretion: if you book a session with me expecting it to happen, you may well be disappointed. I do not switch with new clients on a first meeting.

Can I talk to you on the phone?

There is no need for a phone call or in-person meet in person before booking our first appointment - I find email correspondence to be perfectly sufficient to give me the information I need for a successful session. However, I do offer virtual sessions on text, phone or voice chat if it's not practical for us to meet in person. If this is of interest, please fill out my enquiry form and we'll take it from there.

What if I can't be marked?

I'm perfectly happy working within your pain and marking limits. If you need to be healed up within a short time frame, that still gives us plenty of scope to play with hand spanking and leather implements. I will be able to assess how far we can go once I see how your skin reacts to impact, but I am adept at long warm-ups that reduce marking, and am very happy to focus on the anticipation and psychological aspects of the scene and keep the physical side of it within limits.

Do you see couples?

Some of my all-time favourite sessions have been with couples. I'd be delighted to see you and your partner to support you with learning new skills, exploring different dynamics, and helping you get unstuck - or simply as a special treat to help you celebrate your delight in being together. To ensure full consent I require upfront communication with all parties beforehand.

How much does a session cost?

My prices vary depending on the services offered. Erotic domination sessions are my premium offering, and sexuality coaching and remote or virtual sessions are the most affordable. If I travel to meet you other than at my preferred playspace in Surrey, there will be a surcharge for venue hire. The baseline for a standard spanking session with no extras at my usual premises is £400 for two hours, with shorter and longer sessions available on request. I am sometimes able to offer discounts to clients from marginalised populations who are on low incomes.

Do you offer sexual services?

Spanking is erotic and we may get turned on doing it, but in the normal course of things a spanking session will not include explicit erotic activities such as exchanging genital touch. The eroticism emerges in our minds and in the energetic connection between us. I do not give happy endings or permit self-touch during spanking sessions: I prefer that you leave charged up with erotic energy, However, I do offer erotic domination sessions at a higher rate if this is of interest - please see the Sessions page for more information. I do not ever offer sessions which include oral sex, or any activities where I receive touch to my breasts or genitals, so don't ask.

How do I make a booking?

First you need to fill out the enquiry form. I will reply to you, and after we both have all the information we need to decide to go ahead, we will find a suitable date and time. At this point I will ask a deposit of £100 to secure your appointment. This is best paid by online bank transfer from a UK bank account; I can also accept Wise for international transfers. Once the deposit is paid, you are in my diary and our session is confirmed. I'll send over the venue information including directions and address. The remaining balance can be paid by bank transfer in advance, or in cash on the day as you prefer.

How long a session do you recommend?

For spanking and discipline sessions I generally recommend a two hour session. This makes the most of your travel time, and also gives us time to chat and get to know each other over a cup of tea before we play, and then enjoy our session without feeling rushed. I find that spanking is such a psychological and emotional thing as well as physical, that taking this time to connect and find out what makes each other tick is essential for a truly fulfilling scene.

What if I'm not sure what I want?

It's totally normal to be unsure what you want to do, especially if you're new. We can discuss the options beforehand and keep things flexible with plenty of communication on the day. I'm happy to ask questions to help you explore your interests, and to make suggestions if desired. If you aren't sure yet what you would prefer, we can try a few different things, and find out together where your tastes lie.

How hard do you spank?

I don't have a "one size fits all" approach, and will tailor the session to your unique needs, so you don't have to worry about me going too hard (or not hard enough!). I love the challenge of getting to know a new spankee, and aim to craft a unique scene that will push you ever so slightly out of your comfort zone without going too far, and leave you feeling satisfied.

Will you session with someone like me?

It's my pleasure to see clients of all body types, ages, genders, ethnicities, and sexualities. As a queer person myself, I love meeting new LGBTQ play partners. As long as you are over 18, nobody is too old to enjoy a spanking! If you're worried about your weight, disabilities, or chronic pain, let me reassure you: I'm very comfortable accommodating a diversity of different shapes and sizes, and of adjusting our play to your body's unique needs. 

Do you use safewords?

I believe in fully informed, enthusiastic consent, and am very comfortable with safewords. I'm familiar with the traffic light system, or you can give me another word if you prefer. I will always respect safewords and will pause or stop the scene any time you ask, for any reason. I support everyone's right to communicate in the way they feel most comfortable. Some people dislike using safewords, and we can still play safely and responsibly without them. I am adept at reading your body language and muscle tension to discern whether you are within your limits, and if I am unsure, I will check in. The first time we play, I might ask you what areas on your bottom you like to be spanked, whether you prefer thud or sting, and how deep you want to go. During a spanking I might ask you to rate the intensity from 1-10. I am a great fan of direct communication!

What's your Covid safety policy?

I have had three vaccine doses and I require you to be vaccinated also. If you have travelled recently, please take a Lateral Flow test the day before the session and email me a picture of it. In the event of a positive test result, Covid symptoms, or other symptoms of infectious illness such as a cough or cold, I ask you to please reschedule our session.If you need to cancel our session due to a positive test result, please send me a photo of the positive test and let me know as soon as possible.

What's your cancellation policy?

If you need to reschedule for reasons of Covid symptoms or infectious illness, you can put your deposit towards another session date within the next three months. If you choose to cancel your appointment, your deposit is non-refundable. If you cancel with less than 24 hours’ notice, or if you do not show up to your booked appointment, you will be liable for the full cost of the booking. I will only cancel our appointment in case of a positive COVID test or another emergency. If this happens I will give you as much notice as possible, and either return your deposit in full or put it towards the cost of a rescheduled session as you prefer.

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